A Conversation 30 Years in the Making

One of the many take home lessons from the career development events — find a sponsor who takes an active interest and advocates for you when you’re not in the room. I learned this lesson in elementary school and recently had the chance to thank one of my first sponsors.

My fourth grade class with Mrs. Meador.

Mrs. Meador was not only my fourth grade teacher, but also a neighbor to my family when we integrated a neighborhood in 1987. To say that I felt lost at the beginning of my fourth grade year is quite an understatement. New state. New town. New neighborhood and new school. All of this newness was overwhelming for a nine-year-old, especially one who preferred written words to spoken ones.

Mrs. Meador and me earlier this month.

In Mississippi, I had always been in the advanced classes, but without my academic records, my new school didn’t know where to place me. I thankfully ended up in Mrs. Meador’s homeroom class and stayed with her throughout the day. While we were doing a round robin of reading one day, Mrs. Meador stopped me mid-sentence and asked whether I’d been good in my classes at my old school. Too shy to say much, I simply nodded my head “yes.” Based on her intuition and my “word,” she moved me into the academically gifted classes, where I stayed throughout high school. For Mrs. Meador, this was simply her job, but the redirection helped pave the way for the rest of my academic career. Also, I felt seen for one of the first times since I left Mississippi.

Last week, while back in that little town for the first time in over 30 years, I knocked on Mrs. Meador’s door and thanked her. She remembered the exact house my family lived in and wanted to hear about my continued success. I had hesitated getting out of the car, but am so glad I gathered the courage to knock on her door and finally chat.

Eulogy for Twitter

It is with sadness that I announce my departure from Twitter.

I say this a bit sarcastically and definitely dramatically, but also with actual mourning. Twitter has been my go-to social media platform for news, pop culture, commentary, and lots and lots of doom scrolling for 13 years.

I joined way back in the optimistic, hopeful times of 2009. This was Twitter at its simplest with users sharing thoughts in 140 characters or less from web browsers or as hard it may be to believe, texts. Retweeting was manually copying the text of an original tweet. The fail whale was a familiar fiend, and I could see every post from the people I followed in sequential order.

I quickly learned that Twitter was a way to gain insights and connections in my work life, too. The first time I used Twitter professionally was at the conclusion of a college student advertising competition that I ran. During the post-event wrap up and Q&A, the competition’s sponsor was tracking feedback from the students in real time and invited me to take a look. The students’ unfiltered comments were an insightful addition to what I was seeing and hearing in the room.

The next year, I switched jobs and created one of the first Twitter accounts for the National Institutes of Health. I convinced leadership that this was a good way to connect early career research scientists to NIH and help foster their careers by alerting them to funding and professional development opportunities. My goal was to break down institutional barriers and help researchers from diverse backgrounds succeed at getting their research funded. This is social media at its best — connections that prove fruitful and foster new ideas and access.

In the following years, social offered more options to connect and even reach audiences who didn’t directly follow you, and I joined larger government messaging campaigns where social was one of the key ways to communicate both organically and paid. My first general public campaign focused on getting people to stop smoking. It was my first time overseeing a large paid social campaign, and the first time I saw a wealth of negative comments in response to proven facts like smoking can kill you.

That experience was just a sign of things to come. When promoting the 2020 Census, my team had to actively combat “misinformation” and other messaging that could and did prove harmful to getting an accurate count, especially from immigrants and communities of color. We used social listening to follow online conversations and learn and address the falsehoods circulating about the count. My team also had ongoing conversations with the major platforms in an effort to ensure accurate information would outpace rumor.

After the census, NIH once again became a client, and I worked on community outreach to counteract COVID-19 misinformation that spread like wildfire on social platforms. Increasingly, people believed and shared alternative facts that seemed outlandish (e.g. the needles used for vaccines also inserted tracking microchips).

These more recent experiences are why I’m skeptical of leaders who prize “free speech” over valuable content moderation. Too often, “free speech” is a euphemism for traditional gatekeeping and age old ways to maintain the social, political, and economic structures that have fostered inequities and discrimination. Instead of inviting diversity of thought and lifestyles from people who have existed at the margins, “free speech” gives those who resist change or evolution a way to stifle diverse ideas and lifestyles. While on the one hand Elon Musk states his platform will not become a free for all, his political misinformation post from this weekend shows those assurances and his actions are misaligned. To paraphrase Dr. Maya Angelou and Oprah when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.

Something in the Water: Hire Me for 2023

This weekend, I had the pleasure experience of attending the Something in the Water Festival, a three-day music event curated by producer/artist/influencer Pharrell Williams. The festival’s origins lie in Virginia Beach, Pharrell’s hometown and also the same town that refused to fully investigate the recent murder of his family member. With this slight as the catalyst, Pharrell moved the festival to D.C., and it just so happened to coincide with Juneteenth.

To say I was excited about this festival is a complete understatement. I mean in addition to Pharrell (whose music I have loved for 30 years), there were faves like Usher, new loves like Lucky Daye and the promise of surprise “Phriends.” This, in my mind, made the $350 price tag worth it.

I go to festivals about once per year, so I know I need three basic things to enjoy them – safety, comfort AND good music. I only got the latter at the 2022 SITW.

My music euphoria could not overcome the event planning missteps. Held mainly on a six-block stretch of Independence Avenue, the street holding three performance stages, food and merchandise vendors, and 50,000 people was congested. There were no dedicated spaces for sitting, food breaks or walking. I also didn’t see much in the way of entertainment outside the music. I’m used to seeing step and repeats, photo booths, etc. to amplify the event.

While I expected the music lover in me to be in overdrive, it was actually my event planning brain driving my imagination. Holler at me Pharrell and team because I have few ideas to improve this festival.

  1. Incorporate the National Mall. Having worked a little with the National Park Service and National Park Foundation, I understand why this event cannot be held completely on the Mall. However, a hybrid that is open to the public could work. The festival already has an open exit and re-entry policy. Why not set up games, picnics, etc. on a dedicated portion of the Mall? This offers a fun respite for festival goers and an additional opportunity for the local community to join in.

  2. Connect more to the local DC food culture and habits. Kudos to having local legends like Ben’s Chili Bowl and emerging faves like Colada Shop onsite. That said, I couldn’t get to them without losing my sightline, and I was hangry two out of the three nights I left the festival. For next year, let’s have food trucks along Seventh Avenue to serve the “after party” crowd. The Capitol shone brightly each night and provided an incredible backdrop.

  3. Differentiate the pricing tiers. Yes, I mean have a VIP section. Many of the headliners including Pharrell, Usher, Anderson.Paak, TI and Justin Timberlake are over 35, and their fans are aging out of the free-for-all general admission. Give us vintage fans our own reserved areas with spacing, food service, chairs, and bathrooms within a short walking distance.

  4. Provide much better accessibility. Everybody loves music. If I felt unsafe in this crowd, I can’t imagine how people with mobility issues may have felt, especially Saturday night where the show was stopped to address crowding issues.

  5. Do more sponsor giveaways. I was surprised to walk away without any freebies. Liquid I.V., a “hydration multiplier” was one of the sponsors, so I at least expected to get samples to add to my water.

Money Tips for New Freelancers

For freelancers, June is tax time, and so is October, January, and April. Back when I was an employee, I only worried about taxes in the first quarter of the year. Now that I am self-employed, it’s a once per quarter activity, and while I’m my own CEO, my finances are not a solo operation. It takes a village to ensure my business is on point. Here are a few starter tips to ensure your accounting and tax preparation are solid:

  • Hire professionals. Research and hire a certified public accountant to provide tax forecasting and do your actual taxes. This includes estimates for quarterly tax payments. Your network or professional communities like Progressive Communicators of DC should be able to provide recommendations.

  • Continue your retirement savings. Did you roll your 401K over into an IRA? Use your IRA managers to also set up a Simplified Employee Pension (SEP) IRA, where you can contribute a percentage of your income (before taxes). One tip — you can still contribute for the prior year in the first quarter of the current year. After reviewing your total revenue from the year, your CPA will be able to advise on how much you should contribute to maximize tax savings.

  • Separate your personal and business banking accounts. Open a business account when you’re first setting up your business, and, if eligible, secure a business credit card as well. This way, it’s easy to track income and expenses and pull reports that you can share with your financial advisers. The credit card is helpful for recurring payments, and you may even get cash back or points. Also, if your financial manager at your bank reaches out for a call, set it up. You never know what additional services or advice they may be able to offer you.

  • Ask your clients to pay you by ACH transfer. A check is nice, but a direct deposit is even better. The money is immediately in your account. No need to make a deposit at the bank or even through an app. ACH eliminates the need to worry about a daily or monthly mobile deposit limit.

  • If you have an IRS employer Tax ID, use it on your W9. In addition to the separate banking accounts, this is also a nice way to separate your personal and business affairs, and quite frankly, it makes you feel even more like a boss.

Scenes from Summer 2021

Well, that’s a wrap for summer, and how was it? A mixed bag cause this daggone pandemmy ain’t over. I got out of the house a few times and was always masked up with snacks and loads of hand sanitizer and wipes in one of my fanny packs. My adventures took me to…

Mid-South

This is my country homeland, and it was an awesome July 4th spent with family including my grandmother and my many, many aunts, uncles and cousins. My dad has purchased the land across from my grandmother’s home and is starting to “farm” it. I saw a lot of greenery I’ve been near my whole life, but never actually seen.

New “Ellidauson” land that’s being cleared for future fun and adventure.

New “Ellidauson” land that’s being cleared for future fun and adventure.

Am I working? No. Just posing with Johnny.

Am I working? No. Just posing with Johnny.

Yellowstone National Park

This national park is beautiful, and I’ll return for more adventures. Though a buffalo crossed right in front of my vehicle, my favorite parts were the landscapes and thermal features.

One of my first glimpses of Yellowstone’s beautiful landscapes.

One of my first glimpses of Yellowstone’s beautiful landscapes.

The colors in this spring are magnificent.

The colors in this spring are magnificent.

This landscape is located just a few feet from the spring above, and I love how it showcases the diversity of the area.

This landscape is located just a few feet from the spring above, and I love how it showcases the diversity of the area.

No need to chase waterfalls in this part of the country. There always seems to be one just around the corner.

No need to chase waterfalls in this part of the country. There always seems to be one just around the corner.

The Bay, California

Music brought here, specifically the “Lights On Fest,” which was curated by H.E.R., my favorite artist of this decade and maybe the only one I can pick out in a lineup. In addition to seeing my girl, I also wanted to spend more time exploring San Francisco, one of my favorite cities, and, for the first time, I went on a Sonoma wine tour, where I learned to properly consume my wine.

Good, clear view of the Golden Gate Bridge (and me).

Good, clear view of the Golden Gate Bridge (and me).

I made it! When I first bought the tickets, I had no idea where Concord was, but now I’ve spent two nights seeing the likes of H.E.R and my other fave Erykah Badu.

I made it! When I first bought the tickets, I had no idea where Concord was, but now I’ve spent two nights seeing the likes of H.E.R and my other fave Erykah Badu.

Swish, sniff, gargle and swallow…the secrets to being a sommelier.

Swish, sniff, gargle and swallow…the secrets to being a sommelier.

In and Around Martha’s Vineyard

The Summercamp Hotel in Oak Bluffs, MA.

The Summercamp Hotel in Oak Bluffs, MA.

I took an airplane…all of the way to Massachusetts and a place that’s been on my list since probably 2000. That’s right. I finally landed on Martha’s Vineyard.

Right after college, I read Our Kind of People by Lawrence Otis Graham. The book documents the lifestyles of upper middle class Black families and their social clubs and organizations over the 19th and 20th centuries. This was a world mostly foreign to me — a Southern girl whose vacations were pretty much trips to Memphis and Mississippi where my family has roots.

I had a certain curiosity not only about these families, but also this vacation spot. In my mind I had built it up to this mythical status, whose legend only grew once the Obamas made it a destination, and I was aspiring to be my bougie best. I imagined streets filled with notable folks and beautiful beaches where my kind of folks rested our elegant heads.

Now, there still may be all of that somewhere and sometime, but what I saw in Oak Bluffs was a beach town, similar to others I’ve visited in the past like Biloxi, Myrtle Beach, and Destin. You have your waterside restaurants and a plethora of souvenir, ice cream, and sweet shops — most of which are lined up along one strip. In Oak Bluffs, that strip is Circuit Avenue, and I went there several times over my weekend trip. Oak Bluffs was the destination because that’s where I heard my people are, and upon arrival, the Uber driver as well as staff from the Summercamp Hotel confirmed that Oak Bluffs is where you have fun.

We were starving once we landed, so the first step after checking in was getting a late lunch. Nancy’s, which is right on the water, is a tourist trap, but it was also tasty New England chow. I felt like splurging, so I got the lobster special. Now, I don’t know how to actually eat lobster, so I ate the meat that I could see. The rest of the greenery accompanying the plate was delicious. After that, we walked the town and picked up a drank at a real live package store, which I immediately recognize as a liquor store because that’s what we still call it in the country, too.

Night one was a little chilly, but we went out to Flavors, a little spot that was “lit” — at least as lit as you can be in this era of COVID-19. I did my first group Electric Slide in over a year, and that felt good. The next morning we ate breakfast at Biscuits, a local legend, and decided to do the bike ride from Oak Bluffs to Edgartown. That’s a seven-mile scenic ride that includes the well-known Inkwell Beach and a bridge famous for being in Jaws.

Edgartown was actually my favorite place TBH and probably more of the vacation atmosphere I sought. The shops and restaurants — even the ice cream — were upgrades to what we had in Oak Bluffs. It’s here where I found a pair of silver hoops to add to my jewelry collection, and the streets were a wonderful place to explore on our bikes. Our Edgartown adventure started with a tasty lunch that included an octopus tail and a lobster watermelon salad from 19 Raw Oyster Bar. We also stopped to get some incredibly delicious ice cream from Vineyard Scoops and then rode off to see the beach and lighthouse. I loved the beachfront as well as the lighthouse. It would have been nice to bring a picnic and lay looking and listening to the ocean for the afternoon.

Back in Oak Bluffs, I wanted to arrive in time to visit the Mariposa Museum where I’d seen quilts in the window the day before. I’m on a mission to buy some art and was eager to see what they offered. While I didn’t find anything to my liking or price range, it was great to learn about the history of the shop. For an early dinner, we picked up Jamaican food from Vineyard Caribbean Cuisine and were serenaded by the local who’d given us some restaurant recommendations the day before. The later dinner was Fat Ronnie’s, where I was reassured by the staff’s T-shirts that assured us that they were all vaccinated. The bike ride zapped my energy, so there wasn’t much life to that night. I had my Zzzzzzzs.

The next day we just had the morning, and it was time for one last breakfast along with some souvenir shopping.

Now that I understand some of the lay of the land, when I return, I will:

  • Stay in Edgartown and stay for at least a week.

  • Bring along friends and family for a larger party.

  • Rent a hotel or AirBnB that offers complimentary bike rentals. This was one convenient perk from the Summercamp, which has a relationship with a bike shop that’s on the same block as the hotel.

  • Do more activities like kayaking and seeing more of the island.

  • Plan ahead. While reserving the airfare was pretty easy, the hotel search was intense, and many of the boutique hotels required deposits or full payment in advance.

Vaxxed & Relaxed for Summer?

It’s been a long 15 months since many of us headed indoors for pandemic season. Now that the CDC has spurred the opening of outdoors and indoors for Summer 2021, I see a lot of vaxxed (and waxed) excitement.

Now, me, I’ve always been a germaphobe, so I am one of those people who’s a little antsy about stepping outside into what was once “normal” activities. Thus, right now, if I’m outside and there’s not a whole lot of folks around, I’m barefaced, but put me indoors or in a crowd, I’m masked. Maybe I’m having a vaxxed and trying to relax summer?

Anyhoo, I’ve made a list of what I want to do and see this summer. No big travel plans on my radar yet, but I do want to explore my own DMV region. Part 1 of this started last week with a trip to Glenstone. I was drawn to the Faith Ringgold exhibit, but stayed to explore the campus and its other galleries, sculpture and nature trails for five or six hours. It was a lovely dive into creative bliss. The Ringgold exhibit showcased Ms. Ringgold’s work from the last several decades, and it was amazing to see how she played with different media and themes to document a wide scope of Black life. I was truly inspired by the stories written onto her quilts. It’s the vernacular of my life, and it’s great to see it amplified.

Glenstone’s art, sculpture and trails will bring me back for additional visits. Several pieces stoked my imagination — not just from a creative standpoint, but also appreciation of what artists can do when they are supported. Glenstone sprung from the vision and financing of Emily & Mitch Rales, one of the wealthiest families in Maryland. In some instances, like with the “Collapse” steel beam sculpture, the couple allowed artists to finally complete visions they had dreamed of in the 1960s.

In addition to Glenstone, I also ventured out to Eastern Market over the weekend. I had a specific earring need — silver hoops — and wanted to see what kind of art would be available. I don’t have funds like the Rales, but I am looking to bring some color to my condo. I found the earrings quickly and bought two pair as well as things I didn’t know I needed like a soap loofah and eco soy candle. Already getting joy from all of these. I also spoke with some artisans and will likely be back to pick up some Ugandan wall plates once I know how I’d like to place them. Figure I need a plan rather than just a desire to buy.

Now that I’ve started my summer exploration, I’m excited about other things on my list including museums, parks and bike trails, drive in and lawn movies, wine tours, farmers markets, concerts, and long luxurious brunches and dinners. I’m still fancy after all.

6 for 6: Key Lessons from My New Solo Act

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I’ve always liked the idea of freelancing, but only flirted with it until six months ago. Tired from the ups and downs of a marketing campaign deeply impacted by the pandemic, I craved more flexibility and the ability to have more direct control of my financial prospects. Also, at the time, I was managing 10 subcontractors, and this experience helped build my confidence in my own skills to succeed as a solo act.

Six months in with Ellis Communications LLC, I’m learning lessons —sometimes from trial and error. One of the most prominent is that I should have done this sooner, but also there are several lessons that will stick as I move forward. Here’s my advice for newbie consultants like me, but maybe some old pros, too.

  • Be detailed in your work agreement and stick to it. Define the full scope of the work up front, so it’s clear when you may need to alter the scope and ask for more compensation.

  • Invest in yourself. Reserve at least 30% of your time for your self- and business development.

  • Relish being a consultant. Unlike a traditional employee, you can focus simply on the work you’ve been brought in to complete. Not having a supervisor is pretty great.

  • Only accept assignments that fit your interests. It’s okay to be picky and choose assignments that tickle your fancy.

  • Understand the support that you’ll receive from your client’s team. This will help you understand whether your client needs a single freelancer or a fuller agency team.

  • Track your time daily and submit invoices promptly. Place yourself in the best position to get paid quickly.

20 for 20

On this day in 2000, I graduated from my beloved UNC with a bachelor’s degree in journalism. I’ve had a chutes and ladders career and life, and in these 20 years, I’ve accumulated:

1. Master’s degree

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2. Layoffs

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3. Entrances to my very own office

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4. Multimillion dollar budgets

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5. Different cities and towns

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6. Hairstyles

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7. Jobs with benefits

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8. Cell phones

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9. Weeks of pandemic work from home

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10. Profiles on various social media platforms

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11. Photo and/or video shoots

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12. Journals

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13. Clients

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14. Pairs of glasses

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15. Email addresses

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16. Years of business trips

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17. Resumes

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18. Years in the DMV

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19. Years of professional development fun like Creative Mornings

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20. Years Committed to Good Storytelling & Social Good

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B-Roll Star

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I get giddy when I’m on set at a shoot, and it’s not just the excitement of being out of the office. I love the craft of storytelling, and it’s especially exciting when the weeks of planning come together and you’re waiting for the director to shout “Action!”

Also, let’s face it, for this life-long TV fanatic, I’ve always wanted to experience the feeling of being on screen. So, last September, when my latest project, the 2020 Census, needed a few extras to star in b-roll, I jumped at the chance. I filmed two scenes — opening the mailbox to receive my census questionnaire and then sitting at a table to complete my census online.

To my absolute delight, I am now proud to say I made the b-roll cut and am actually pretty popular. I’ve been on CBS This Morning, Good Morning America (briefly), in various video packages for my client and a few local news stations, too.